Sunday, December 6, 2009

Inconvenient

The trademark of knowing that you have good friends is knowing that you can "call them at two in the morning." Or, in other words, you have the privilege of being cared for and about even when what you want or need is inconvenient. It's not that you try to be inconvenient. It's just that in the hubbub and craziness of life, sometimes it happens that you are sick. Or sad. Or heartbroken. Or get great news. Or need therapy. Or just need. And it doesn't always happen during business hours. As a matter of fact it usually doesn't. It often happens when people are busy with other things. There are friends that you know will take your calls. Yes, even in the middle of the night.

And no, not because it's convenient. It's because in good friendships, YOU are never an inconvenience. Even when they are wiping the sleep from their eyes. Or driving to pick you up at the airport after they already settled into their sweats for the evening.

It's not easy to be this kind of friend. It takes a selflessness that is rare in our society. But it is worth it. Kids need it from adults. That things aren't always about our convenience but about our care for them. Because that feels really good. For all of us. Be this friend. Dont' just look for this friend. And remember, it's not all of your friends. And it doesn't come easily. Takes some time and nurturing. Let it happen. Enjoy the process. But make sure that you take the time to nurture this kind of relationship. It's totally worth it. You are totally worth it.
blessings,
rhonda

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