When parenting, it is often said that consistency is the key. It seems like the mantra of every parenting book. And, consistency about what the rules are IS important. What to do for consequences? Not so much. You see, kids are a bit like having a bacterial infection. Nice image, huh? But, just like an infection, after a couple of rounds of the same antibiotic, it's time to switch things up because the infection has become immune to that particular antibiotic. Kids are the same way. They build up a resistance to the consequences that are used if they are used continually. They become ineffective.
Parents have to change it up. Use different things. Think outside the box. Do something unexpected. Appropriate to the circumstance and to the age, but not what is expected. Sometimes. Not every time. But, if kids build up a resistance to what you are doing then it just becomes a battle of wills. Not a fun place to be.
So, have consistently high expectations of your children. But, when there needs to be an adjustment of behavior....be creative.
blessings.
Parents have to change it up. Use different things. Think outside the box. Do something unexpected. Appropriate to the circumstance and to the age, but not what is expected. Sometimes. Not every time. But, if kids build up a resistance to what you are doing then it just becomes a battle of wills. Not a fun place to be.
So, have consistently high expectations of your children. But, when there needs to be an adjustment of behavior....be creative.
blessings.
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