Everyone keeps wondering why I announce that it's my birthday. I'm totally not shy about it. You can also ask my age and I will answer honestly. No problem. I announce my birthday to my friends because I spent too many years having kind of lousy birthday while waiting for someone to meet my needs.......wondering if they would do something special or whatever. And most of the time, nobody really remembered. And then I was hurt. Ridiculous. If I want to be miserable because nobody cared, then I have to at least give them a chance to care.......put it out there. I am learning as I get older that I am responsible for my own happiness. My husband, kids, family, friends make great memories and are wonderful to be around, but my happiness depends on my leanring how to verbalize what I need. Strangely, when I am able to do so, they almost always come through.....in their own ways and fashions. I love that. Also, I hate it when someone makes me feel badly about missing their birthday when they didn't even tell me it was coming up. I mean, what satisfaction comes from guilting someone? Well, ok, I am a mom and there is a bit of satisfaction there!! But in reality, the greatest satisfaction is when people you love and who love you back reach out and meet your needs. So that's why I tell them right up front that my birthday is coming. If they call on my birthday and didn't know, I stop them and tell them to wish me a happy birthday. Or I ask them to sing. Now, you are sitting there being very glad that you are not my friend. That's ok, I have a huge group of incredibly lovely people who reach out to me and make my birthday special....as a matter of fact, they make my days special. But I think that the reason I am so much happier as I get older has very little to do with life getting better and a whole lot about me getting better about taking responsibility for my own happiness. I can't change circumstances, but I can change how I see them and who I choose to allow to walk with me. I choose not to walk alone. blessings, rhonda
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